What Is The “Yes Pattern” In Relationships? By Teal Swan

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What Is The "Yes Pattern" In Relationships? In this video, I want to explain to you what the yes pattern in a relationship is and how it's affecting you.

Humanity is in the process of learning how an individual can have themselves and be in a relationship with another person at the exact same time. At the current moment, most of humanity does not know how to do this. Many people feel like they have to choose between having their own personal truth (including thoughts, feelings, preferences, aversions, desires etc) and being alone. Or to be close, connected and together with others at the price of giving up their personal truth. When they do this, there is very little authenticity in the relationship. Very little actual honesty. Being inauthentic is exhausting. It feels bad. It feels like closeness, love and connection is conditional upon putting on an act and being different than you are.

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  1. The catalysts for inner evolution is inner awarness. Thank God for inner truth, and true leaders.

    • Awareness is everything. Whenever I hear the word “no” I think of two words: “No” and “Know”. Is there something missing? Is there something I need to “Know” before making a decision or something I need to “Know” that is affecting my inner awareness. Or whenever someone says “You, no.” I think of “You know?”

    • @Bernard Bujard perfect! I’ve come to add to ‘know’… when you knowww something to be absolutely true, you ‘kneaux’ it…in your heartmindbodyspirit, in every fiber of your being. 🤗💫💚🙏🌟

  2. “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
    ― Oscar Wilde
    ~ Much Love from a Growing YouTuber💜

  3. People say yes in relationships thinking agreeing will make thing’s go by easier. We all do it just to say we are getting alone. Look at it this way relationships are hard you have to give in to be a couple. Love you Teal, I can say you is my favorite Podcast host. I can listen to you all day. Have a good day. ❤

    • I think that is not what she’s saying at all. You do not have to give in, it’s the opposite. You got to keep yourself, while taking the other as part of yourself.

    • @Karine Dagesse
      That’s true but how many time’s in a relationship that one partner do something to make the other partner happy? It happens all the time, people are different no couple have all of the same likes, or dislike. People always give in to make someone happy. Thank you.

    • Yup and if your with a narc they convince you the yes is a good thing for you and start seeing breaking boundaries as a good thing like you wouldnt have this experience without it. Its totally enabling both ways.

  4. Please do a video on Religious Pessimism (some religions claim that severe distaste for materialistic desires and strict renunciation, asceticism, etc. make one enlightened). Many people’s belief systems are strongly rooted here.
    I’d love to hear your opinion

  5. i would love to know if teal thinks the paranormal shows are real! like the ghost hunters, etc.

  6. Been with my wife since sophmores in highschool. My tongue is always bleeding from having to bite it so much. I can’t speak any truth and often take the yes dear approach. I lost power/respect in the relationship when I struggled with addiction for 9ish years. Basically we moved next door to satin and he started giving me oxycontin but soon physical dependence turned into full blown addiction. I will admit I left a path of destruction but the part I really liked about the substances I was on was the relief from the voices of self doubt/anxiety in my head. Not saying that makes it right. That stems from my mom ripping up my projects for school if I made a mistake Calling me dumb etc.. on my wedding day my mom apologized for how she was when I was little. My wife says none of that happened and I am over reacting. I live in a box of I have to act, behave and do things a certain way or according to her I’m high or she asks why I am acting so wierd. For someone with anxiety being asked in public why your acting so wierd is horrendous. I know I love her but I have created multiple versions of myself to appease any situation. She sub consciously wants to always be in control which manifests into her lashing out if I try to take my power back. New years eve we got into an argument which turned into her kicking in the bathroom door because I locked myself in there to get away from the yelling. After it was over I was sitting on the couch and with a smile on her face she said you know what I can do and say whatever I want and everyone will believe me over you the addict. Ever since that moment I have held extreme amounts of resentment towards her because it’s true. I am fucked if I stay and fucked financially if I leave.. so alas yes hun, sounds good. Its cheaper to keep her type thing. In the 16 years we have been together she has only admitted her fault or being wrong 2 times……TWO TIMES?!? Let me tell you she’s been in the wrong way more. We have 2 boys 10 and 6 and I take the approach of letting them figure things out instead of being like my dad and making me do sports etc. It was because he never played in high school so he lived vicariously through my siblings and myself..sorry for the novel I just needed to get this out into the ether

    • Wow your story sounds so similar to my boyfriend and his past relationship and current dependencies.. I hope you can find a relationship with Spirit who can heal you with love and true guidance and help you to find real true love for YOURSELF. So you can know what is best for you and in turn for everyone aroun you because you can grow and make better choices from a place of calm and love. People may not like it especially if it shows them how negative they are in comparison. But keep coming back inside and connect with spirit who is always there for you sometimes so quietly

  7. I had 8 years of marrage in a “yes” relationship. Also keept me safe, because if He ever left me, I knew I would be safe and not Fall apart. And that is excatly what happened. I didn’t even shead a tear. I feels like strenght, but really there is a ton of lonelyness underneath.

  8. Tell people no from the beginning in order to not disappoint them later where they will make a bigger issue out of it and end up really hating you🤷🏽‍♀️” sooner rather than later “.
    After 15 years of bending myself for others and the having a midlife crisis, I finally been saying no to others and even though it makes things awkward with them afterwards, at least I’m happy with myself.

  9. Oh man I grew up being a Yes Man to keep the peace in my relationships. It’s only been these last few years that I’ve realized it’s caused me inner turmoil, and the un-conditioning of it is continuous! Thank you Teal for making this video!

  10. Shooketh! – I was in a terrible poly relationship and this was my mentality. So glad that’s in my past. Thanks Teal!

  11. My last partner was an extreme caricature of that yes pattern. I couldn’t understand what was going on. If only I had known this back then!

  12. Don’t lose ‘You’ for the sake of Unity. “Nice guy syndrome ” will condemn you to life-sentence of people-pleasing everyOne…except Yourself. You be you, i be me, we be we…”we” are the 3rd i. 🤗💫💚🙏🌟

  13. Hey, friend. Take this time to relax. Don’t overthink. Even if there is a problem, there is always a solution. Breathe, take care 💕

  14. I love anything Teal has to say about relationships…it’s always on point and intense af 🔥

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